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On getting it done - Starting over, new and fresh - Conjectures of a recovering dilettante while traveling the road to Utopia

 

Getting things done in a steady and correct matter is no easy task.  If it were, we would all easily reach our life's goals.  Planning is easy; execution is hard.  That is why we have so many discarded plans that never amounted to anything.  

 

There is hope in the planning process. As you write or think the plan it implies a new beginning.  While the plan may be new - the person thinking the plan isn’t. And that is why new plans seldom work. To have a new beginning, the person planning must first make themselves new.  And that is no easy task.

 

To begin new and fresh is to allow the process of change to take place.  Change means giving up many things that are near and dear to us. To change is to seriously disrupt your comfort zone.  

 

When I first engaged this process several years ago, I presumed that serious introspection needed to take place. To discover the motivation for behavior seemed important to me. 

 

It was almost too easy when I began to understand how wedded we are to our comfort zones, no matter how insignificant or destructive they may be. But like all revelations, they are easy in the thinking part and difficult in the doing part. 

 

Revelations often reveal serious character flaws. These flaws are embedded deep in our consciousness, and these flaws often mask themselves as virtues.  And virtue, no matter how misdirected, gives one the excuse that is needed to keep the status quo alive.  All of this is a significant barrier to break down. 

 

Break troughs do not come easy, but they do come.  At the point when you realize that only change will keep you alive mentally and physically - you have a choice to make. 

 

You are faced with the choice of new life or a permanent type of stagnation.  And if that does not get your attention nothing will.

 

Brother Franco

 

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Here’s one way to make a relationship work - However, only if you are really serious.

 

 

Relationships remain the core every fulfilled life. Volumes are written about what makes a viable relationship. A relationship can take all forms, good friends, members of family; however, the most important relationship is with your spouse or significant other. This defines your life.

Here’s one way to make a relationship work. Take two sheets of paper - on one paper list all the good things your partner offers you. On the second sheet of paper write all the bad things that keep your relationship from working.

You should spend considerable time on both lists and try to limit it to no more than five of the most important things, for good or for bad. I think it might work better if you actually spend some time thinking about it before you considered writing anything down. Once you have a sense of what you would like to say or list, begin.

You can start with the positive or the negative, whichever suits you. Once you have completed your task study your listings carefully. Make sure that you are comfortable with them, and they are authentic and meaningful. Once you are sure your lists are accurate spend a little more time thinking about them.

Consider your negative and positive lists for the next three days.

At the end of three days of careful consideration, take the list of positive remarks - the key to what makes your relationship work and put it in a safe place and make sure you review it at least once a day for the next month. Take the list of negative remark’s tear it up, and throw it away.

Now you’re on your way to making your relationship fulfilling and meaningful for the rest of your life.

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